What kind of reaction do we have when we are given a gift? A gift is usually a surprise. For me, I get that momentary pause of taking in a deep breath. I’m a sucker for a beautifully wrapped gift. Sometimes I can get so focused on the wrapping, I can lose sight of the surprise that’s inside the box. Giving a gift is also a big part of the experience. Yet, I’ve been guilty of deflating the giver’s joy by saying, “You shouldn’t have.” WHY IS IT DIFFICULT TO RECEIVE? Life has a way of shaping how we react to things. I grew up in an extended Italian-American family in Brooklyn, NY. I not only had to deal with the discipline and structure from my mother; but my aunt and grandmother, as well.